Mo' Milk Problems

I've joked to Erica that it's taking a village to breastfeed a baby (based on all the help from all the nurses).  Two weeks later and it only seems more true.  Mom calls China almost daily and has more tips from my aunts about what I should do (re: recovering, eating... etc.)  She props us up on pillows to get into breastfeeding positions. She and Dad try to make me get more sleep and force feed me nutritious foods... But they also tell (/yell at) me to stop breastfeeding.

"Look at how sickly you are, there's no way your milk is good."
"He's spending more energy trying to eat than he's actually getting."
"Your milk is like water."
"It's not gold, just put more in the bottle and throw out what he doesn't finish."
"There's so little there, just make him some formula."
"Don't be so cheap!  Use formula, it's better."

When I face them, I am hard-faced and stubborn, citing how breast milk is better and he's fine with the amounts I'm producing and that I will produce more when he feeds more.  When they're gone, I start to doubt myself.  Am I being irrational?

Paul questions me too.  He wonders if my motivations make sense.  How good is it for James if his mom isn't getting any sleep?  How good is it for him if he's getting frustrated and worked up because he can't get enough milk?  He reminds me that I have to top up anyway, so why not just pump and bottle feed?

"Because I want to," doesn't seem like a good enough answer.  I cite how feeding from the breast is better health-wise for both me and James* (e.g. right antibodies produced, my reduced health risks) and that pumping and prepping takes a lot of time too.   But, mostly, because I want to.  It makes me feel like I'm actually doing something right... but what if I'm wrong?

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* Admittedly, these are pro-breastfeeding sites: 

- International Breastfeeding Journal "Benefits and challenges of transitioning preterm infants to at-breast feedings", summarised in Table 2

- Native Mothering "Are There Differences Between Breastfeeding Directly and Bottle-feeding Expressed Milk?"